Life isn’t always peaches and cream, and putting in the work to relax and loosen up can be a loving and affectionate act of yours. A massage is much more than just a physical activity—it is a way of communicating, which is “I see the overwhelming burden you bear, and I want to share it with you.”
You are not required to be a qualified massager to give a relaxing massage. The primary thing is the empathy you bring. Begin by setting up a conducive environment. Turn off the lights, play some soft music, and if you can, light a few candles.
Use light, unscented, or mildly-scented massage oils for greater pleasure and to keep it more relaxed.
A neck or shoulder massage right after the office and a foot massage after she has been on her feet, or maybe a gentle hand massage can make all the difference.
Concentrate on the areas where the tension is usually accumulated and change the level of pressure depending on her preferences. Look at her facial expressions and ask her if she is comfortable with the intensity.
Massages are not limited to the physical dimension only—they are also emotionally releasing. By the touch, you are saying that you are compassionate, affectionate, and observant.
If she has had a really horrible day, this simple action can help her to rest with the knowledge that you are on her side, comforting her, and supporting her.
Countless times offering to massage her is an excellent way to show her that you care, in more than just a physical manner, and it’s also a great sign of how much you pay attention to her and you value her being happy.
This particular tender form of love leads to intimacy and bolsters your relationship, thus, she feels she is indeed a treasure.